Imago, it is the image that we create of the people who took care of us during our childhood. It is with them that we learned to be in relation. When we are attracted to a person, it is our unconscious that recognizes itself. According to Harville Hendrix and Hellen Hunt, creators of the method, people who have similar "wounds" are attracted to each other... Remember, at the beginning of a relationship, there is this impression that we know the other person... when objectively this is not the case at all! We feel a sensation of familiarity with a complete stranger.
It is this feeling of familiarity coupled with the magnificent hormonal "machine" that secretes vasopressin, dopamine and oxytocin that makes us fall in love. The feeling of knowing each other plus the “love hormone cocktail". Yippee! We are in paradise! And it is this state that we would like to relive when our relationships get complicated...It is possible to learn to know a new state. It is possible to get to know a new state: that of the conscious couple, who have learned to see their own wounds and those of their partner, who are open to deepening the bond again and again.
Why do unconscious people attract each other? According to the IMAGO, it is in the relationship that we have been hurt and it is in the relationship that we can heal. With a person who reflects back to us the perfect mirror of what we have to work on. Imago combines awareness and practical exercises offering couples tools to understand what is behind their difficulties, their struggles. Imago is both a way of thinking about relationship dynamics and a set of tools for learning to listen to each other, understand each other, and experience connection again.
